May 17, 2009


Did you know that the word “rejection” was first used in 1415?  The original meaning was “to throw” or “to throw back”.


It’s somthing like the fact that you are turned down with disappointment and closed doors when you expected something good out of it.


So who have not been rejected before?


I believe that till this point of time in our lives, we have at least been rejected once; be it from the job that we wanted, the friends that we cherished, to the expectations for a certain examination, requests to our parents, people using direct and indirect methods to shut you off when they say “talk to the hand!” etc etc.


The list goes on and indeed when we look at our lives, it was never meant to be painted beautifully with all the colors we desire it too be. However, it is also due to the rejections in life that we find the correct colors that make our painting even more complete and renowned.

It is also comforting when we hear ‘successful’people who talks about their past experiences of being rejected and how they cope with achieving the final successes in their lives.

“As it is always good when hit by rejection, it is uplifting to know you are not alone.”


For example…

Beethoven’s music teacher declared him ‘hopeless’ at composing,  only five turned up to an invitation was extended to witness one of humanity’s most historic moments – the Wright brothers’ first flight in their heavier-than-air machine, Albert Einstein’s parents feared he was sub-normal etc.


But did this people stop what they believe in? Did they stop believing their ‘calling’? No!

Instead, they pushed through despite the rejection, the mockery and even the condemnations!

So you must be thinking that “yes, it’s always easy to talk about this ‘historically successful’ people. What about me? I’m not like them; I’m just an average individual.


So the question might be like “How can I overcome feelings of rejection?”


Answer: We are all prone to disappointment and feelings of rejection, and that is especially true in the aftermath of a broken relationship. However, as born-again believers we have a resource in God’s Word that can bring comfort and clarity to the situation. One person’s rejection does not mean we are unlovable. But we can allow that one rejection to determine how we feel and allow that feeling to accuse us of who we are, or we can choose to put that behind us and move forward on the basis of something that is far more lasting – our calling…


Not one of us are ‘specially’ made in a way that we can handle rejection 101% well and perfect, or even to be able to contain our emotions and disappointment when a rejection hits.


However, it is also mentioned in Genesis when Cain did not gain favour from God, it was God who told him personally still that he has to follow through and do what is right and that if you do what is right, will you not be accepted?


Genesis 4:6

6 Then the LORD said to Cain, “Why are you angry? Why is your face downcast? 7 If you do what is right, will you not be accepted? But if you do not do what is right, sin is crouching at your door; it desires to have you, but you must master it.”


Those verses are definitely speaking to us, not to look down upon ourselves or mull over about the rejection, but to do what is right and avoid committing any sins when we feel dejected the most. Not giving our negative emotions the chance to allow anything bad to happen, but tolerating and bearing them with objectivity and endurance. 

 In my opinion and personal understanding, the young people nowadays are more receptive to rejections. The main reason is that there are simply too many chances and choices around, and you do not get what you want all the time. Learning how to cope with rejection earlier can definitely help you to realize your life’s calling more effectively and clearly. 

Looking back at those rejections that have occurred to you, aren’t you glad that it happened? So that you’re able to stand here and be joyful of what you’ve been through?  Such that you are stronger and have learnt to be more sensitive and understanding to others.


Shared by someone who’s wiser and with heart-felt regards to this topic …

“Agree to Disagree but without being Disagreeable”




Take a look at this cute video, lets persevere on doing what is right even though doors may be closed…



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